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For knowing the risk of leaving , there is a possibility of him losing you FOREVER. I am going to jump on my soapbox for just a few minutes, Please Excuse If I Offend Anyone. I apologize in advance.This statement was prompted by a conversation with my cousin, discussing “WHY DO BAD MEN,LEAVE GOOD WOMAN”. As we discussed our past relationships, we discovered that we have always been on the losing end of all of our relationships. Pondering my past relationships with the opposite sex, I can say that is one avenue that I have not been successful in .

I believe when a man truly loves you, his walking out and leaving you would terrify him, for the fact that he know someone else has the potential to take his place. I know personally, I never walk away until I am ready. Even if I got knocked down several times, I would not leave until I felt like I had tried and done everything possible to make things work.

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1. I think women have lowered their standards to such a point where men can play ennie mennie miney moe with our hearts because the tolerance level of one woman to another is so different. If a man sees you as “difficult” he will gladly move on to the next because the next one may not require much of anything from him and he still may get to keep all the benefits.

2. We do not hold our ground long enough to let them prove themselves worthy of us. After a couple weeks of courtship we let me into our lives and act as boyfriend and girlfriend without him ever giving us the official title.

3. Times have changed. In today’s society, relationships seem to be a thing of the past. So getting a man to commit to you is almost as hard as trying to find a Block Buster on a Saturday night.

With that being said, I fall for it every time, not thinking why are they truly coming back now after all this time? A lot of times men walk away because you are not that significant to them at all. I understand sometimes needing space but 8 months to five years — that is not a break! He just have not found another woman that equals up to what you were offering and he is trying to come back after all that time, to reclaim what he couldn’t find in anyone else since he left you. They hit a dry and lonely spell where they reminisce and decide to seek you out.
Case and point, my friend had a guy she dated from high school that was one of her first loves. He sought her out on Facebook and contacted her after several years. They reconnected with several red flags already on display from the jump.

He was on probation
He was living at home with his mother
Living off his unemployment checks

But she still went forth with the reconnection. He promised her he would never hurt her again like he did once before. She believed and engulfed herself into his lifestyle. With the probation he had a strict curfew which prohibited him from leaving the house after 5pm daily. She would go by sit with him and keep him company with no hesitation. Fast forward several months and his probation ended . No sooner than that she could not see him to save her life. He instantaneously became to busy just to come by and visit her at all. And after a month of them not communicating she finds out that he has a child on the way.

My point with that story is she let him back into her life with all the signs of him being irresponsible for a second time. Sometimes as woman we never learn. Once you let a man treat you with little or no respect his walking out again is without hesitation because to him you are not an asset anymore. You were good for that moment. And I always say doing something the first time is the hardest but after that it gets much easier. So their walking away for a second time is definitely a no brainer for them.

I am not saying that you should not give “Second Chances” but really consider the reasoning of how and why they left the first time? And by it being so hard to date in this day and age, letting someone of the past come back in sometimes is a lot easier than trying to get to know someone new all over again. But don’t let past memories over take your rational thinking.